15 MONTHS... and life can be tough sometimes

I'm feeling a bit rusty due to my last post being nearly 5 months ago. A lot has happened in the last 5 months and I'm not to sure where I should start...

[Warning: Its going to be a long one!]

Life over the last 5 months...

21 Feb
In my last post I was 7.5 weeks pregnant and super excited about our little jelly bean. I wasn't getting much morning sickness if any at all and my skin was almost glowing... well as close as you can get to glowing while in TSW anyway.

16 March
I decided to take the job that I was offered as Senior Graphic Designer at a little studio in town. I'd told them that I was pregnant when they interviewed me and I'm so grateful that despite this they still wanted me as part of their team!!

26 March 
We went for our 12 week ultrasound to see that our little bean was growing as he should be. This was probably the first sign of trouble as the lady who did the ultrasound wanted us to come back the following week. So we did.

2 April
Had our next (3rd) ultrasound and this is when she voiced her concerns about him. He was much smaller than he should have been for 13 weeks.

The next 3 weeks were the hardest, most stressful and scary weeks of my entire life. We were referred to the hospital, had multiple scans and specialist visits. We found out our bean was a little boy and we also found out he had spina bifida among other problems and were told that he probably wouldn't survive much longer.

19 April
At 15 weeks and 3 days I started bleeding, we went up to the hospital, he miscarried at 11.45 in the morning. I can honestly say that this has been one of the hardest things I have ever experienced in my whole life. This was also my Grandpa's birthday (who passed away about 11 years ago) so we named him John after my Grandpa.

We took him home with us and I couldn't put the little box that he was in down for the next 2 days. Its the strangest thing loosing a baby. And its not something that many people talk about I've come to realise. So many people that I've talked to since then have either had it happen to themselves or know someone who has.

I figured that it was probably my fault that this had happened because at the end of December I'd run out of my Folate and B12 (which I was taking for my MTHFR gene mutation) so I wasn't taking this in the first 2 months of pregnancy which is the most critical time to be taking this supplement, which I thought had resulted in him having spina bifida. The doctor had agreed with me on this and thought that there wasn't any need for chromosome testing. We decided to get the testing done anyway.

After waiting 10 long weeks to get our results back, last Wednesday we went up to the hospital and the doctor told us that our baby boy had a chromosome defect called Triploidy. This is when 2 sperm enter the egg at the same time resulting in 3 sets of chromosomes instead of 2... he also said that most of these babies miscarry much earlier and all of the abnormalities that they told us about were because of this.. and that there was no increased risk of this happening next time.

All of this was a lot to take in. But long story short... in the beginning I felt like it was my fault and was pretty worried that there would be a likely chance that this would happen again.. but its not and there isn't!! Big weight off my shoulders. Our little boy was just a miracle baby who hung on a bit longer than most.

In between all this my Gran who I was really close to passed away as well.

Its been a hard year.

Amongst all this sadness I still feel so extremely grateful that I've got a loving, caring partner and family, I've got my job which has been great and all my new team mates are so supportive and that I've got a wedding to plan and keep my mind occupied.

So now I've got my roller coaster of a life update out of the way it's time to talk skin...

Jan, Feb and March my face/neck skin was pretty good condition (everywhere else is 100% normal). Not perfect but still a million times better than I was in Nov/Dec. After the 12 week scan I think my skin deteriorated a little which was probably stress related.

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MARCH

15 March

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APRIL

Immediately after we lost baby boy my skin improved again.. I'm not sure if they gave my anything at the hospital that they shouldn't have or what but by the end of the week it started going downhill again..

- Inflammation
- Shedding
- Itchy after showers
- Sores that wouldn't heal
- Red itchy spots that looked almost like pimples

This all lasted about 4 weeks.

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MAY

3 May - In the midst of my Anniversary Flare

12 May
Flare died down - I'm going to say that this was my anniversary flare as it finished 13 months TSW
- Spots gone
- Shedding gone
- Inflammation gone
- Itchyness after shower mostly gone
- Can smile normally without skin FEELING tight

Only trouble spots left were my knuckles on the two middle fingers of my right hand, as well as my TSW moustache and monobrow.


1 June
Started using zinc on my TSW moustache and monobrow everyday to try and heal these stubborn bits which today are pretty darn good.

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JULY - Today

So its been an interesting year so far. Some good some bad. I've learnt a lot about myself and whats important to me along the way. Hopefully the rest of the year will be better.

10.5 MONTHS and a MAAHOSIVE surprise

Skin wise all has been great ever since beginning of last month when things "magically" took a turn for the better. Theres still been general improvements, less reddening, less shedding, improved elasticity etc. The rest of my body from neck down is 100% normal now.. it has been for a while but I'm not to sure if I've really talked about the rest of my skin much. My stomach feels amazingly smooth and I don't even get the little rashy bits behind my knees any more.

So my MAAHOSIVE surprise and why I can see now how things "magically" got better all of a sudden is I'm currently 7.5 weeks pregnant!!!!!!!!! OMG I actually was gobsmacked when I found out but it all makes sense now.... these baby hormones have done wonders for my skin!!!

Life has been incredibly crazy/complicated/insane for the last 3 weeks since we found out. We were supposed to be getting married 7th November... I booked our honeymoon to South America the day before I found out... I'd just been offered a new full-time job (I've been out of work since I started TWS - just working on my own little business and doing part time work here and there) and now to top it all off we've got another unexpected guest coming to the wedding who is "due" to arrive 4 weeks beforehand... knowing my luck he or she will be 2 weeks late!

My brain feels like a 5 lane roundabout somewhere in South East Asia right now... Things going everywhere.

We've decided to move the wedding to January which gives us 3 months to settle into parenthood before we tie the knot... I've cancelled our honeymoon.. Thinking we'll probably have to go somewhere a little closer to home haha... I've taken the full time job. This was a pretty big decision for me but when they showed me the contract (and the pay rate) I had to do it. I've not had any morning sickness at all and I really want to be able to get into more of a financially stable situation, with me being off work last year our savings are looking pretty poorly at the moment.

I'm pretty excited now but my initial reaction, and I still have moments of it, was talk about timing!!! We hadn't been trying at all and I'd actually been told that I'd have problems having children. So yip, completely mind blown.

But getting back to the main topic. It does make me wonder what is going to happen after the pregnancy... Is my skin going to continue to be normal or am I going to go back into flaring again???? I wish I knew the answer.

Time for a quick photo update...

Day 320!!

9 MONTHS... 280 days

I'm behind on my skin update for month 9... I completely skipped my month 8 update... and I think thats mainly because after going downhill a bit I was pretty stagnant for the most part.

After my last update (7 months) when my skin was in a fairly good place I went down hill slightly and stayed there basically right up until early last week when there was literally an overnight improvement.

So basically between month 7 - 9 my neck and face went back to shedding similar amounts to maybe month 6ish... I had a spot oozing on my neck for over a week that didn't want to heal... every morning I HAD to have a shower to exfoliate all the dead skin off (just rubbing gently with my fingertips)... stinging in the shower... my neck just felt tight and sore all the time so I was back to taking 2 ibuprofen every night and most times during the day as well. Basically from the shoulders up, I felt sore, red and swollen. Definitely not the same as the early days but I think it just seemed so bad because of how far I had come.

Diet and supplement wise I have been pretty shocking since maybe mid-December. Sugar, gluten, dairy, take-aways, you name it. My skin had already taken a turn before this and I kind of just felt like "Screw it! Its Christmas/ New Years! I'm going to eat whatever the hell I want to eat!!" (I even had a few sneaky vodkas on New Years Eve, and I hadn't had any alcohol for 8 months), I also ran out of all my supplements right before christmas and with money a bit tight at the moment I haven't actually invested in any more yet - Probiotics, Folic Acid (Vit B9), Vit B12, Fish Oil caps and Apple Cider Vinegar... typical that I'd run out of everything all at the same time!!! But interestingly, I've still had this major improvement without all the good stuff.

I'm definitely going to get back into my supps when I can afford to again because they definitely weren't doing me any harm and who knows... If I hadn't run out what would my skin be like now??

I'm not really using the clofibrate ointment anymore. I think the repair lotion was working but once again, I ran out and can't afford to get any more. I've used a bit of sunblock the last few weeks... my partner and I have been out fishing and the sun is so fierce in summer over here! I've noticed that the sunblock dries my face and neck out pretty bad though.

So! On the flip side... since early last week I now feel so much better. I DON'T have to shower and exfoliate every morning any more. My face/neck area is barley shedding at all. I've stopped taking the ibuprofen. That morning that I woke up, it was actually the pain that I notice first had disappeared, because every TSW warrior knows, when turning your neck theres only a certain distance you can turn it before you get that sharp tight feeling, warning you not to go any further.

So without further ado... PHOTOS!

8th December 2014 - Day 244

I didn't get many photos over the last 2 months... but this one about sums them up

9th January 2015 - Day 276 

Last weekend fishing with my BFF

I think this is going to be a great year! A million times better than last year!! This is the year...

Happy healing thoughts to everyone out there in the bolgosphere.